Monday, April 4, 2011

This Week's Inspiration

    
      
      The Man Watching
      Rainer Maria Rilke

      I can tell by the way the trees beat, after
      so many dull days, on my worried windowpanes
      that a storm is coming,
      and I hear the far-off fields say things
      I can't bear without a friend,
      I can't love without a sister

   
      The storm, the shifter of shapes, drives on
      across the woods and across time,
      and the world looks as if it had no age:
      the landscape like a line in the psalm book,
      is seriousness and weight and eternity.

   
      What we choose to fight is so tiny!
      What fights us is so great!
      If only we would let ourselves be dominated
      as things do by some immense storm,
      we would become strong too, and not need names.

   
      When we win it's with small things,
      and the triumph itself makes us small.
      What is extraordinary and eternal
      does not want to be bent by us.
      I mean the Angel who appeared
      to the wrestlers of the Old Testament:
      when the wrestler's sinews
      grew long like metal strings,
      he felt them under his fingers
      like chords of deep music.

   
      Whoever was beaten by this Angel
      (who often simply declined the fight)
      went away proud and strengthened
      and great from that harsh hand,
      that kneaded him as if to change his shape.
      Winning does not tempt that man.
      This is how he grows: by being defeated, decisively,
      by constantly greater beings.



Sunday, April 3, 2011

Making Love Out of Nothing At All


"And I Know the Roads to Riches"

You know that saying about building up your treasures in Heaven? Well, what if you're not quite sure you believe in Heaven? What if you think Hell was invented to get small children to obey their parents? Or maybe you believe we return over and over again in some other form. Where then should we be building up these treasures of goodness? It couldn't hurt to build them up in the souls around us. Love doesn't have to be expensive. You might send an email overflowing with encouragement to a friend you know is having a difficult time. You may offer to help someone move their furniture into a new home. Maybe you simply say the words "I love who you are". 

The best things in life are free. I'll say this a lot so get used to it. If I were forced to make a list of these freebies, love would be at the top. Love will always be free. Real love, romantic or otherwise, will never be up for sale. No department stores with a Love Boutique, no Love Restaurants...it all depends on you. 

What I would encourage is this, begin to shift your view of "riches" to one of internal fullness rather than financial security. Remind yourself everyday that the things that truly matter won't cost you anything. And love. Love above all else.  Love your partner, your family, your pet, the people you pass by daily without a thought. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Love is free and free is cheap.

P.S.
I love you




Thursday, March 31, 2011

Brooklyn Thrifting Heaven

How lucky am I to have a sister in Brooklyn? Best place for thrifting in the world!! Today's goal was finding a few things for her home here to make it as comfortable as possible before her baby boy is born in the next couple weeks. We found a large basket for front door shoe storage, a great tea tray that is going to be used for organizing either jewelry or something like that. We also found an amazing panel from a set of drapes. Suddenly we felt like making play clothes for a group of motherless children in Austria, but instead it will hang on a wall in her unfinished basement as we (I) turn it into a livable space for soon to be visiting family members. Now if only this little boy will come while I'm here! Otherwise I'll fill my time with thrifting and spending more than I should...what?

 A Suitable Basket
Brooklyn Tea Party 
Curtain Call

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Scrimp Chat: Jill Spills


Welcome to "Scrimp Chat" where I ask and some lucky reader tells. This week I sat down in Costco (on top of the beans and below the condoms)with Jill to talk a little about her spending habits. She's a single girl living in Portland, Oregon and is currently a full time student so those pennies must be pinched hard.  


Hello Jill! Would you mind giving a little background on your thrifty upbringing?
My mom is the Valedictorian of being thrifty. She did not make our clothes but I think that's only because we were very lucky to have an aunt who liked to outfit us, and to be a part of a church community that gave us a lot of hand-me-downs. I remember my mom using coupons, for almost everything. We had homemade bread (which sadly I did not appreciate at the time), homemade jams, homemade play-dough, the list could go on and on. When I was in high school my parents got chickens, and now they have so many eggs my mom tries to give them away sometimes. She also keeps a garden and cans so many fruits and veggies, seriously you would be shocked at her pantry.


Did any of your parents spending habits (good or bad) rub off?
Some of them did. But I also find myself buying snacks (other than pretzels or animal crackers) "because I can". But one good habit they passed on to me is not owning a credit card. I also don't feel like I need to by the name brands, I am totally ok with the store brands (except I love me some Jiff peanut butter)


How would you describe your spending habits now?
It's hard to say because even though I'm a "grown up" I am also a student. So right now in my pantry is some ramen noodles, Jiff peanut butter (that I took from my mom's pantry last time I was home), cans of tuna (also from my mom's pantry), and store brand popcorn.


What would you like to change regarding your monetary life?
Right now I would like to change just about everything. Because I am a student I'm not able to save like I used to be able to when I had a full time job. However that was one of my favorite parts of having a full time job- being able to save money every month. I set up an automatic transfer every month, and it's a good thing I did because there have been times when I really needed it. 


Do you have any scrimptacular tips you could share?
Sometimes when I think I want something I walk away from it just to make sure. For example: I have ring that I wear everyday, the first time I saw it I loved it. I wanted it. But, I walked away because it was more than I usually spend on rings. But, I kept thinking about that ring. So the next time I was in that area I went to the store to buy it...but the store was closed, so I walked away...still thinking about the ring. I went there again, specifically to get the ring (I couldn't stop thinking about it) but again, the store was closed. Now I knew I really wanted that ring. It had been about 3 weeks and I still was thinking about it daily wanting it, afraid that by the time I got back it would be gone and out of my life forever. It wasn't. On my third trip back I was able to purchase my ring, and I love it. I get so many compliments on it, and every time  I look down at my hands i love seeing it there, my left middle finger looks and feels like a nudist without it.
So, I guess what I'm saying is that if you want to buy something but it's more than you usually spend, walk away from it. And if you find yourself obsessing about it then you should probably go back and get it, it was meant to be yours. However if you don't think about it once you walk away then you'll have saved yourself some spending guilt later on.
Also, I recommend for most items never buy full price. Not even for underwear, there are always sales on things. Just don't try to buy underwear at goodwill or anything - that's just going too far - but there are plenty of things that are just as good if not better used. Like used bookshelves - better - that way you won't feel bad if you want to paint them or cover them in book pages. I won't buy things at full price (well except for my ring) I feel so much better when I spend the least amount possible for something I need/want.
I also think it's important to give yourself permission to buy something for yourself every once in a while just because you really want it. It might not be practical, it might not be necessary, but it might just make you inexplicably happy. And being happy is priceless. So if buying that ring/book/dress/pair of shoes/jacket/necklace gives you joy every time you look/wear/read it then don't feel bad for one second about spending your dollars on it. You're worth it.


Thanks Jill! It's been fun hanging out here in Costco with you but I think I'm about done with the strange looks from shoppers and I'm sure you've got studying to do...



Sunday, March 27, 2011

Praying For Time

"Hanging on to Hope, When There is no Hope to Speak of"

Hope is a thing with feathers. I know this because it often flies away. We wonder where it's gone, if it will come back, what to do if it doesn't. Days can follow days that line up and up and up and still no feathers to be seen. The dreams of "someday" and "what if" stop and instead are replaced by sleepless hours of "never" and "what now". Today I want everyone, especially myself, to consider saving something other than money. The rainy day fund I would like to start is one of a non-monetary kind. Hanging on to hope. Filling a jar or a box or even just a pocket full of reminders that, given time, things will get better. This morning might find you on top of the world. Flowers are blooming and everything is going your way. Put a little memory of that in your hope savings account. A day will come when you'll need to make a withdrawal and if no deposits have been made, you'll come away empty. Imagine a bank full of small items that make you remember the good and magical parts of life. Morsels of times to taste during the famine. 

This treasure box of hope should be an actual vessel.Begin today by filling it with scraps of paper, theatre tickets, notes, receipts, photos. Fill it with items that make you smile, stones, pressed flowers, charms, memories. When the moment comes when you're sure you've run out of hope, open your box. Look at each thing you've saved and remember that time will keep ticking away. It always does. Hope may have flown the coop but you've held onto a memory of it to hold you over until it comes back. And it will come back.

Please gather your bits and scraps of hope and love today. You don't realize it perhaps, but the day will come that you're glad you started a hope savings account.

Hope is free and free is cheap.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Not Going Postal

Today began with a surprise from a friend. 
Ironically a gift in the post kept me from going postal.


 A lovely little Edward Gorey book called 
The Eclectic Abecedarium. It's perfect in every way and spoke right to my heart the way she knew it would.

And I know even so far apart she's still got her eye on me.
It's little things like these that remind me how important the people we love are.(oh Rebecca I miss you)

Let's all do something nice for someone we love today and every day. Nice is free and free is cheap.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

I'll Make It Myself: T-shirt Scarf

First I cut 6"x 6" squares out of random t-shirts I had already started cutting for other projects.  I ended up with 17 squares.

Step two was lining them all up and pinning them together. I wasn't very scientific about it knowing how it would just drape down when it's being worn meant I stressed less about the details.
After the squares were pinned, it was time to brave the sewing machine...I have a terrible habit of what I call "Pulling a Rachael" which is when I jam the sewing maching every single time I make something. It only happened once this time. So I just sewed a basic stitch straight(almost) down the lined up squares.
Voila! Recycled T-shirt Scarf.  I can't wait to wear this simple little scarf with a tank top and jeans maybe while I'm out riding my bike so It can blow in the breeze behind me.  You should try it too! I can't wait to try out other ways of dressing it up and playing around with this basic pattern. 

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Another Pleasant Valley Sunday



"Here in Status Symbol Land"

We care about what other people think. Some of us more than others, a few of us a bit less than some, and a handful of us barely at all. Then there are those that care so much it devours them whole. They morph from human beings to merely walking advertisements for all the things money can buy.  The blinding Cartier, the fabulous Mercedes Benz, the newest Lois Vuitton, the sky high Manolos, the striking Armani, the perfectly quaffed Shih Tzu...

These "status symbols" are merely items that usually aren't any better than their inexpensive counterparts.  They are simply a name. When did we start putting all of our self worth into the tag on our shirt and the brand of our shoes? It's hard to imagine, but there was a time people only acquired things based on need. Yes there was probably still that caveman with the extra large cave all the other brutes were a little jealous of. Probably a few pioneers pimped their wagons. Maybe an explorer here or there had the latest and greatest survival gear just in case he ran into that other guy in the wilderness. But, over-all I believe it's only now that the rich folks are throwing birthday parties for their kids that cost more than an average wedding. 

Take a walk in your neighborhood today. What status symbols do you see? Unnecessarily large vehicles? Houses big enough for three families that only house two people? Little dogs walking down the street with a smug look because they know they cost more than a tropical vacation? Now look again. Are some of these things within the boundaries of your own property? 

I admit I'm giving the drastic examples here to make a point, so let's step back for a quick second and talk about any of you reading right now patting yourself on the back because you clearly don't require any status symbols. Before you get too high and mighty, take a closer look at your life and tell me you don't buy some things simply based on how it will look to everyone around you. Next time you find yourself about to make a purchase ask who you're really buying it for. Is it for you, or is it for them? 

Let's all do a little soul searching today. Don't just scan the surface. Dig deep into that corner where the truth is hiding. Treasures may be found there and aren't we all just wannabe pirates?

May you all have a truly pleasant Sunday.
Pleasance is free and free is cheap.


Thursday, March 17, 2011

Go Green to Save Green


We all want to save money and most of us want to save our planet (you there, the one that doesn't care about our lovely little Earth? go away).  The great news is that almost all of the things I've done to be kinder to my home are also things that save me money.  If ever there was a total win-win situation, I think this is it.  So on this greenest of all green days (you there, the one who doesn't look at the calendar, it's St. Patrick's Day. go put on something green).  

Here's a little list of things I've done recently or maybe have in the works (the works being my brain so no guarantees):

  • Ride a bike to your destination instead of driving or just for fun and exercise.  This week I've done both. I've ridden to the store for groceries and I've ridden out into the country for entertainment.  Pedaling as fast as I could down the sidewalk with the wind in my face and a giant field off to my right was the most alive I've felt in a long time.  
  • Eat vegetarian or even vegan if you think you're up to it.  You may wonder how this saves the planet but the amount of energy and water put into raising animals for consumption is over the top.  Just sayin.  
  • Re-purpose old clothes for new uses.  I'm making a few things out of old t-shirts that will be posts of their own soon.  One of the easiest is making re-useable shopping bags out of them by sewing the bottom shut, chopping off the sleeves and a bit of the neck.  Wait I'll just get you the tutorial link...hold on....                http://www.marthastewart.com/article/good-thing-t-shirt-bag  There you go!
  • Old towels that have seen their last shower can be cut up and used as cleaning rags.  Instead of going through a billion paper towels when It came time to clean my old apartment before moving out, I just tore up a few towels and used those instead.
  • Buy more "un-prepared" "un-packaged" foods.  I try to buy everything in bulk even if it means a half hour of cleaning and chopping at home.  Some things I do buy pre-packed but if I can do it myself for less, I opt for that.  


These are just a few random things I've done in the last few weeks but there are so many! Have any of you done anything lately that saved you money and was good for the planet? Please comment and share with the rest of the class.  

If you aren't wearing green, pinch yourself.  I'm too tired after all the vegetable chopping. The only thing I have the energy for is pinching pennies.

Pinching is free and free is cheap.




Wednesday, March 16, 2011

it's like riding a bike...






I'm standing here on the ground
The sky above won't fall down
See no evil in all direction
Resolution of happiness
Things have been dark
For too long




I found a love I had lost
It was gone for too long
Hear no evil in all directions
Execution of bitterness


Message received loud and clear




Don't change for you
Don't change a thing for me



Don't Change - INXS